Bullies and Bad Ideas

John Steinbeck
John Steinbeck

“All war is a symptom of man’s failure as a thinking animal.”

Still thinking about peace, I wonder what is this in human nature that thirsts for conflict.    Is this something that we just must shrug our shoulders and accept as our lot when we are born into this life.  Or do we have the capacity as a species, as human beings, to use our thinking minds and noble spirits to pursue peace rather than war?  I look into myself and find there have been times when I have fought.  Mainly, the objects I have fought against have been bullies and bad ideas.  I felt empowered and ennobled in my causes.  And yet now, with maturity I see that battle, whichever battle is entertained, causes many casualties.  Some of those casualties are innocent. And in Gaza, it seems as if most of the casualties are innocent.  And yet, in conflict taking sides just inflames things.  It doesn’t add to finding a peaceful solution.

Taking sides adds to the entertainment factor in conflict.  Just think of all the energy and emotion fans expend at a football game.   ( Is fan short for fanatic?)  Sometimes I wonder if the sporting world trains the human mind to support conflict.  Now don’t get me wrong.  I watched the World Cup Finals and cheered.  I am a fan (fanatic) of Rafa Nadal.  And I believe that competition can bring out the best in the human spirit.  But when competition tips over into conflict, I draw the line.  Conflict aims to destroy, healthy competition focuses on bringing out the best.  I believe, we can be fans or supporters of a particular side in a conflict, if we are conscious of what we are doing and not just blindly following emotional pulls.  Better yet, the more noble road is if we support the opposing factions to find peace.

At the base of many conflicts is a lack of understanding.  Then with a tendency to vilify the other party, the facts are distorted in a morass of emotion which builds into a chaotic, unreal mass.   The will to understand the opponent is lost.  The battle ensues – sometimes for years – when the energy and creativity could be applied to finding a peaceful solution.  From that point, a person is free to use their limited life energy for ecstasy, pleasure, joy, serenity, happiness.

Our little town is a microcosm of the world.  What we do here reflects into the larger world.  Why don’t we find peace here so that the world may find peace in Gaza, in the Ukraine.  But maybe we need to step back… all of us… and find peace in our own hearts first.  Yeah, that is the place to begin.  Check out my blog post from yesterday called Idiots in the House for some great techniques.

Better solutions will come from a peaceful mind, a peaceful heart.

The Hawaiians have a very successful method for finding peace in all sorts of relationships.  Called Ho’ Oponopono it includes some very simple words that work like magic in all sorts of human relationships.  Here I will share:

I am sorry

I love you

Please forgive me

Thank you

If you have yet to find peace inside, using these words may be difficult.  But use them first on yourself and then begin to use them with others.  It WILL work magic in your life.   Even Roman Rivera Torres advocated forgiveness with his famous quote published in the Wall Street Journal many years ago.   You might think forgiveness is boring, but it could open the pathway to joy, serenity and peace.  To me, ecstasy is not a boring state of mind.  I prefer it to battle.  How about you?

"An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind."
“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”

2 thoughts on “Bullies and Bad Ideas

  1. Yes, Donna, I agree with you…find peace within ourselves, let it ripple out to those in our circle, those whom we touch…in this way we can change the world one heart at a time….peace and love to you, my friend…

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